Dating violence is controlling, abusive and aggressive behavior in a romantic relationship. It can happen to anyone regardless of race, economic status, gender, sexual orientation, or where one lives. It can include verbal, emotional, physical or sexual abuse, or a combination.
Some victims experience violence only occasionally, others more often. People stay in abusive relationships for many reasons including: fear, belief that their abuser needs help and will change, and because they care about the person.
An unhealthy relationship has an imbalance in which one person tries to gain power and control over the other through threats, emotional/verbal abuse, or physical or sexual violence. It can include:
- Name calling, making a person feel stupid
- Intimidation through looks or actions
- Making all the decisions
- Cutting you off from friends/family
- Excessive jealousy and possessiveness
- Frequent texts or calls to check up on you
- Shoving, grabbing hitting ,pinching, kicking
Being a victim of dating violence is not your fault. Nothing you say, wear or do gives anyone the right to hurt you.
If you think you are in an abusive relationship, get help. Talk to someone you trust like a parent, professor, counselor, co-worker or campus safety. If you want help deciding whom to talk to, call the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-866-644-3574. They are available 24 hours a day and you can speak to someone anonymously. Speak with an NHTI counselor, they can provide additional resources to you.
If you have been a victim of dating violence, you might think it’s your fault. You might feel angry, sad, lonely, depressed and confused, feel helpless to stop the abuse, and feel anxious, not knowing what might happen next.
- Let friends/family know you need help.
- When you go out, let someone know where you are going and when you will return.
- Go out in a group or with another couple.
- In an emergency, call 9-1-1
Who You Should See on Campus:
Anyone who is a victim of dating violence should report the incident to one of the following people:
Vice President of Student Affairs (603) 230-4040
Director of Counseling Services (603) 230-4043
Director of Residence Life (603) 230-4044
Director of Campus Safety (603) 224-3287
Director of Health Services (603) 230-4043
Title IX and Equity Coordinator (603) 271-6484 x4128
Any Resident Assistant
Other Resources the Victim May Choose:
Domestic Violence Hotline 1-866-644-3574
NH State Police 9-1-1
Concord Police 9-1-1
Concord Hospital (603) 225-2711
31 College Drive
Concord, NH 03301
Fax: (603) 230-9303